to wonder: “How far can I go away from home?” You may not want to leave your pregnant wife locked up alone in four walls, but sometimes you still have to do it.

The situation is not easy. The patience of each of you is now clearly at the limit (and there is every reason for that), so any careless word can provoke a serious conflict. Be carefull! Don't forget to be understanding. Now your mindfulness of your wife's condition should shift to overtime work. Yes, it's not easy. Perhaps every night, going to bed, your wife wails loudly: “Am I finally giving birth to this child or not?” You are unlikely to find words to convince her that everything is going fine. Moreover, you yourself can begin to get annoyed and offended. It is natural. The fact is that you yourself need time ... at least a little time to get distracted and recover. How about a game of poker with friends? This is a good idea, by the way. The main thing - during the game, just for a moment imagine how your wife rushes back and forth around the house and is tormented by the fact that you ran away to play cards, and she is about to give birth. Yes, how could you?

This is exactly what happened to Laura and to me. I went to visit a friend who lives five minutes walk from our house to spend an evening playing poker with a man. We always played from six to ten in the evening. The last batch was just distributed at ten. Having collected the dollar seventy-five cents I had won, at a quarter past ten I entered the house. Laura was on edge: “How could you forget about everything and be so late? You said you'd be home at ten!"

She was two weeks away from giving birth. I almost laughed, but in time I remembered that it is dangerous to laugh in such situations. So I hugged her, lowered my eyes, and said in a remorseful voice, "I'm a bad boy." She laughed, which meant I could start laughing too. That is, Laura quickly realized that she reacted too harshly, and I immediately agreed with her. In general, the game of poker has turned into a very instructive story about the psychology of pregnant women.

If your wife is afraid of being alone, discuss this with her. Calm her down. Judging by what we It was said that women during this period have a heightened sense of danger. It looks like it is. But if your temporary shelter is within easy reach and you definitely need to visit it from time to time to maintain your mental health - well, go. Just try not to destroy with this something that took you many months of hard work.

As a solution to the problem, we can offer you a cell phone. If you don’t have one, then you will have to buy it - or you can try to borrow it from friends for a while. Just knowing that you are a phone call away from her can put your soul mate at ease.

Of course, you must patiently comfort and reassure your wife every time she calls you on your cell phone and says that she seems to be going into labor. And if a wife bursts into tears when, from your point of view, there is no reason for tears, remember - there is a reason: she is worried, she is not confident in herself, she does not find a place for herself. Therefore, be indulgent to the swings of her emotions and frequent calls. It is indeed a very turbulent time for her. She needs you not so much to feel what is happening to her as to understand what is behind it.

Let your wife know that you know how much she needs your compassion, and that if it were possible, you would carry your child instead of her. You can tell her that you don't feel well either. We promise it will make it easier for her. When the baby is born, you both admit that you may have been a little silly. But so far, the fear is justified. Talk to someone. With a priest, a priest, a pastor, a rabbi, a mullah, a psychologist. And be sure to talk to each other. All your worries are justified, and they must be voiced and overcome.

Let's go on a trip

It's no secret that many babies were born in the back seat of a car. But still they are much less than they write about it in the newspapers. But you and your wife will surely succeed in restoring strength with the help of such a walk. Convince your spouse that it is absolutely not dangerous for her. If you have any doubts about the safety of such a trip, consult your doctor. When all the little things, up to the height above sea level, are taken into account, he will be the first to speak in favor of the trip: “Do not sit at home, develop yourself, enjoy life.” Of course, you will have to do for your wife from time to time “stops on demand”, but since she will know that you are ready for this, then the trip will not be a source of special problems for her.

And again, if your loved one is too afraid to be out of the house, you should enter into her position and think of something else. Rent a videotape of a good movie, prepare a sumptuous dinner, and have an evening for the two of you. But if your wife still finds the strength for a little trip, both of you will get the opportunity to briefly digress from the “childish question”.

Going on a business trip or on any other business during this period, arrange in advance for someone to take care of your wife. Maybe she should stay with some of her relatives or friends, and you do not forget to call her as often as possible. Last weeks беременности — непростое время для женщины. To keep her calm, reassure her that if labor starts while you are away, you can return immediately. Although, of course, if your wife has very little left before the birth, it makes sense to adjust your plans. It's not that hard to find a compromise between business and fatherhood these days.

We hope you don’t want to be like a man who, in front of our eyes (it happened in the emergency room of the maternity hospital), reprimanded his frightened wife, whose childbirth still didn’t start: “And for this you demanded that I come ?! I lost two thousand dollars on the contract because I dropped everything and rushed to you, and you still haven’t given birth?!”

After examining the woman, the doctors told her that it might take another day to give birth, because the contractions were just beginning at that moment. She, exhausted by her husband's reproaches, asked the doctors to artificially stimulate childbirth. I had to forcefully restrain Laura, who was ready to rush at this “tough businessman” with her fists. Insensitive bastard! One can imagine what the future held for his child.

Calm down your beloved

Make a commitment to spend as much time with your wife as you can during the last two weeks of your pregnancy, and be completely at her disposal when the birth is just days away. This will be the best manifestation of your concern for her.

In addition, now is the time to generously take care of all the household chores. In the last days before childbirth, even the simplest things can be difficult for your wife. no matter if it's dusting the fridge, taking things out of the washing machine, or making tea. She has every reason to count on your participation - and not only active, but also emotional.

Enjoy every moment spent together. Nothing special is required of you - just sit on the couch, chat, hug and make plans for the immediate future after childbirth. Tell your wife that you love her often. (This confession is never superfluous.) You are together - and it's great. Once the baby arrives, finding time to be alone will be very difficult.

Don't forget gifts. They have a truly miraculous effect. It will be very touching if you order a bouquet of flowers for her (you can ask to bring them while you are at work). Or buy different children's things that your baby may need - your wife will be even more delighted with them. Oh, by the way, it's time to tell her that you love her again (no doubt, she will be glad to hear it). And remember the magical power of massage.

More about superstitions

♦ If the baby was born feet first, he will have the gift of healing.

♦ If a child has a big mouth, he will make a good singer.

♦ If a child is born with open hands and spread fingers, he will succeed in business.

♦ If the amniotic fluid is pink, the baby will have great energy and sharp eyesight.

♦ If a child has big ears, he will grow up generous, and if small, then stingy.

♦ At the birth of a child, you need to fan the rabbit's foot so that nothing bad happens to him.

♦ If a child is born on a Sunday, evil spirits cannot harm him in any way.

♦ For a child to be lucky, at birth, you need to spit on him and rub him with lard.

♦ Be careful: a child born with teeth can grow