The frequently encountered expression “marriage of convenience” causes us not very pleasant associations. Imagination immediately draws a kind of beauty-predator, hunting for other people’s money, or a provincial, seeking to get a metropolitan residence permit. In fact, everything is a little different. Marriage is always, to some extent, a calculation, it’s just that some rely on it, while others rely on love.

Marriages for love
Entering into marriage, loving couples sincerely believe that this euphoric state will last for the rest of their lives. But time passes, and the darling, with whom, as you know, paradise in a hut, no longer seems so sweet. He suddenly discovers a lot of shortcomings – and he is lying on the couch with the TV remote control in his hands instead of taking his beloved to a restaurant, and he scatters socks all over the house … but you never know what can cause disappointment!

With men, the situation is exactly the same – suddenly the husband notices that his wife does not know how to cook anything except fried potatoes, or that she is an indefatigable spender who cannot stretch money until the next salary.

The inability to solve life and financial problems sank more than one family ship.

In addition, a frequent reason for the breakup of families can be considered the inability to devote time and attention to each other. The family has been created, the goal has been achieved, and it seems that this is stable and forever. Other goals and objectives come to the fore – career, finances, raising children. People move away from each other, love turns into a habit, already others, each with their own, vital interests separate the couple in different directions.

Marriages of convenience
Statistics say that the most durable marriages are those that are arranged, because spouses with a clear mind and a cold heart make their choice. Such couples calculate difficulties in advance, look for ways to overcome them. Everything is taken into account – housing conditions, material opportunities, expected inheritance. These marriages can be quite strong, but in fact everyone lives their own inner life, not revealing to each other those hidden parts of the soul, in which the true “I” of each person is hidden. They are rather partners or associates than spouses, as such. Sometimes it happens that already in marriage it suddenly turns out that the spouses love each other, that they have no one dearer and closer, but these are rather exceptions that only confirm the rule.

For arranged marriages Marriages of “necessity” can also be attributed. They happen because it’s just time to get married, because the parents “married”, because she suddenly unexpectedly became pregnant, because it’s scary to be alone in the second half of her life. Such marriages, although they can exist until death, but, as a rule, do not bring much joy. People just live nearby, raise children, sometimes they even have pleasant moments, but there is no particular happiness in such a marriage. And sometimes you want it!

There is an exit
How and with whom should one marry, so that it turns out to be long and happy, so that the spouses complement each other, so that they are always together, “in sorrow and in joy”?

The answer is very simple. When entering into marriage, everyone should have a warm heart and a cold head. This means that love must be present, but there must also be a place for calculation.

Judge for yourself, if the marriage was arranged, and people are not particularly attracted to each other either intellectually, spiritually, or physically, then what kind of happiness can we talk about?

On the other hand, if there is nothing to eat in a marriage of great love, then isn’t such love doomed? And is it love when you are not ready to do everything possible and impossible for the sake of your loved one?

Therefore, when entering into marriage, of course, for love, it is imperative to soberly assess the capabilities, character and life goals of your chosen one. Oh, how true the Russian proverb is: “Measure seven times, cut once,” and it has the most direct relation to marriage.