help but get married. He needs to get married! He just has to immediately run to take a queue at the best registry office in the city.

Seven Reasons to Get Married You Can't Argue Against
The first reason is that all men get married, and no one has died from it yet. Moreover, most are satisfied. After all, if 80% of divorces worldwide are initiated by women, then only one in five of all marriages that break up is due to the high dissatisfaction of men. And if in the country, let's say, there is no year after year: 50% of divorces for 100% of marriages, then only one in ten is dissatisfied among men. But this is such a small error that can be neglected. We add here that all men who have already been married, seek to restore their family status as soon as possible, frankly recognizing its advantages. They are getting married within the next year or two. A sad fact for women: a man who decides to divorce, in truth, does it only because he has found something better, as he thinks.

The second reason is that a married man has a reputation as a responsible, caring, serious owner and manager. The logic of employers is simple: if a man runs a household, supports a family, he is motivated to work for two or three, and systematically. He is also, by definition, distinguished by high tolerance and readiness for progressive progress, enduring the hardships and joys of living and working together in the same family brigade.

The third reason is that many privileges follow from the reputation of a stable and reliable family man. For example, getting loans. In general, it is easier to give a family man a loan than a bachelor. A family man moves up the career ladder faster and receives a social package. Since he did not leave the family, they argue in the company, it means that he will not leave his job either. He is with us forever. Family psychology is like a religion in which a collective is chosen as God, starting with a small cell of society.

The fourth reason is that married men are more popular with women. Women like men who are ready to marry. And not just get married, but also raise children. Therefore, if a man is not only married, but has already got children, he has no price. Of course, not everyone can enjoy this privilege. After all, there is something like a conspiracy between women to resist the traitors. But some of the women still betray their order and fall for the bait of other people's family values. Woe if this prey turns out to be a predator. But that is no longer our concern. It is not our business to warn men of the dangers of infidelity. Our job is to tell him about the benefits of marriage.

The fifth reason is that family men improve their health. They are less likely to suffer from cardiovascular diseases, cancer, and prostatitis. The statistics here are so impressive that only suicides have not yet married. After all, think: together with his family, a man receives three hot meals a day, regular sex and emergency treatment in case of a cold. True, judging by the growth of overweight in men, they so far they use in full force only a spoon and mustard plasters. But how can this serve as a reproach to their spouses?! They themselves do not want and then still complain.

Sixth reason. In general, getting married is like flying to heaven with the prospect of a lifelong ... stay. Of course, you have to pay for this. But if both spouses work in the family, then the payment is half as much. Savings that can hardly be overestimated. The issue of buying an apartment, a car is solved twice as fast. Men have never been indifferent to the size of the captured territory and means of transportation. Just think: instead of waiting ten years, you can get all this in five, or even two years, if you are lucky with your wife's parents. Remember the cherished door that Papa Carlo tried to point out to his son Pinocchio? Now you understand that, most likely, it was the door to the registry office. The old man was too shy to tell his boy the truth.

The seventh reason is, of course, love. An unconditional argument for women. Love rarely descends on men - like an unbridled attraction to the woman of his dreams. Such a man should not be dragged to the registry office, but pulled away from him. The state of heady love does not last forever. Therefore, it is better not to flirt. If a man seems to you a promising partner and you feel that he is just changing for the better before your eyes, and you yourself are blooming like a May rose, do not be capricious, agree to get married. You will have a long and happy life with your loved one.

Parental prohibitions - a vow of celibacy, sewn into the script of life
Some men seem to be programmed to be celibate, although they do not talk about their fundamental decision not to marry. Sometimes it is difficult for them to answer why. Why are they already forty, and they have never married? Why did 7–10 years pass after the divorce, and they never met the one who would go from a candidate to a wife? Every time in a relationship with women they reach a certain point and - stop! Not a step further.

In what follows, I will show that parenting programs and taboos determine the readiness of our men to endure marital tests or take repeated risks.

Transactional analysis deals with the study of parental scenarios and programs that determine the life of children with almost one hundred percent probability; its ancestor is the famous Eric Berne, whom the reader knows from the brilliant work “Games in which people are playing. A scenario, according to Berne, is a series of transactions (interactions), as a result of which a certain goal is achieved, which Berne calls winning. In fact, a win can also be a loss, but what can you do - such a game was chosen ... The three theses of transactional analysis seem to me productive, intersecting both with classical psychoanalysis and with my many years of practice.

First. The demonic voice of a parent living in a person confuses all the time, tells you how to get lost and follow the path that leads to failure. This voice sounds in our uncontrolled part of the psyche constantly - from early childhood it was transmitted to us through a parent. Therefore, it is transmitted and assimilated by us without any reflection. We experience it inside as an irresistible, passionate desire. This is the voice of an enraged child deeply embedded in us, which we tend to confuse with our inner voice, our second self. This presumptuous demon sits firmly in us and does not tolerate any objections. It is he who makes us make quite definite decisions in difficult life situations, lose or win.

Second. Bern divided people into winners, non-winners and losers. The winner is the one who goes beyond the parent scenario and wins. The non-winner is the one who spends all the time trying to reproduce the already known result laid down in the parent scenario. Outwardly, the invincible is quite prosperous, but he does not make any special breakthroughs, although he dreams of them. A loser is someone who not only does not achieve the goal to the fullest all the time, but also gets the exact opposite result. Since we are talking about men who would not like to remain lone wolves or old bachelors, but each time they find that they will have to celebrate the New Year alone, then, of course, we are forced to consider them as losers.

Third. Berne, following Freud and ancient mythology, notes that in case of failure, a negative prescription, a curse or a false slogan of a parent of the opposite sex is triggered. That is, a man is confused by his mother, whose voice he believes so much. Women - the father (about women is a separate topic; many women are successful with men, but never get married, despite their passionate desire to start a family). But here we are talking only about men.

And yet today I would add to Bern's theses that the author of the ban on marriage for men can be both a father and a brother ... Yes, anyone.

In the time of Freud or Berne, the role of the family in the upbringing and socialization of children was extremely high, if not exceptional. The main scenarios were transmitted vertically - from ancestors to descendants, and it was easy to trace how, for five generations, men of the same family tree repeated the fate of each other at least through a generation. The grandchildren protested against the behavior and views of their fathers, but they did it in an old-fashioned way. Grandchildren in most traditional cultures are even named after their grandfathers - this is a way of symbolically preserving family capital. Inheritance was especially respected in regard to profession and social status. This is where the law of the invincible worked: nothing that I don’t hit the jackpot, I don’t make breakthroughs, but no one will take mine away from me. Bern himself gives an example of the family of an Indian tribe shaman, each of whose descendants also became a shaman, until the latter chose